Capturing Fantasies and Infatuations

16 Apr

True Biblical Courtship is loving God with all your heart and He then gives you His pure love to share with someone. Infatuations is taking a little bit of your love from God and giving it to another – this is selfish love.

There is great harm in entertaining lustful thoughts. It will result in disillusionments, sexual additions, anger, discontentment, unfulfilled expectations, etc. These thoughts are strong and powerful and we ought to be guarding our hearts and minds against them. There is a great need for the Christian youth of today to be lifting each other up in prayer that we enter not into temptation and that we daily exhort one another in righteousness and holiness.

So, how can one be victorious in this area of the mind?

1. Recall Your First Exposure to indecent conduct or immoral behavior that you may have experienced in the past.

2. Break Its Power Over You. (The strength of sin is in its secrecy. Renounce the sin and claim the name and blood of Jesus over the sin.)

3. Expose Satan’s Lies (We’re drawn into lustful sins by our own desires and Satan’s lies. Some lies we believe are: 

“My lustful thoughts don’t damage anyone”– yet, he or she who lusts after another committs adultery with that person in their heart defiling them. When a man looks at a woman in a lustful way, this can often cause the woman to have lustful thoughts as well.

 “Marriage will satisfy my passions” – but marriage is for giving not getting.

“I can stop when I want to”– the wages of lust is more lust. You become a prisoner to the sin. Only the power of God can set one free from the bondage and entaglement of it. Remember that secret sin will always come to light. “Be sure your sin will find you out.”

“Lustful acts only affect me” – yet, you damage God and His testimony. David declared – ‘Against thee. thee only, have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight’! (Psalm 51:4)

4. Build a New Belief System (If you apply God’s commands to your life, you will abide in His love. A repenting of sin should be expressed because of its effect of breaking your relationship with God; become born again if you’ve never given your heart to Jesus; and follow Jesus alone.)

5. Turn Affections into Prayers: (It would be good to tell your parents about these infatuations. By doing this, it will take the power out of the sin. If you struggle daily with lustful thoughts, fantasies, or infatuations, continually turn each affection into a prayer. This may mean several times a day but we ought to pray without ceasing!) In your prayer:

*Thank God for this normal desire.

*Confirm that the Lord designed you and cares for you and wants the best for you.

*Confirm that He knows who and when you should marry.

*Admit that your heart is deceitful above all things (we are fools if we trust our hearts).

*Express that you’ve dedicated your life and body to the Lord and that it is under His control (if you have never done this, I would strongly encourage you to do so).

*Tell the Lord that you are willing to serve Him in singleness of heart until He makes His will abundantly clear.

“Whom have I in heaven but thee? and there is none upon earth that I desire beside thee.” Do we truly desire this? Is this our ultimate desire? Do we only want Christ and more of Him each and every day? I certainly hope so!

Speak these truths in your heart until it becomes the truth!

(*Notes taken from Mr. Gothard’s teaching during staff meeting*)

5 Responses to “Capturing Fantasies and Infatuations”

  1. Jennifer April 16, 2009 at 4:51 pm #

    These are great points! Lust isn’t really spoken about much other then the phrase “guard your heart.” It was encouraging to read this.

    Mr. Gothared sounds like a great teacher, one you are blessed to be under!

  2. Elizabeth April 17, 2009 at 9:53 am #

    This post is one of my favorites!

  3. Chris April 17, 2009 at 7:59 pm #

    Great post! Good points!

  4. Rael April 17, 2009 at 11:04 pm #

    Thanks for the thoughts. As a young unmarried lady, I need all the biblical wisdom I can get on this subject!

    Thanks for visiting my blog! Yours looks very encouraging. 🙂

    In Christ,

  5. Sarah Ann April 19, 2009 at 5:53 pm #

    Hi Sara, I found your site through Kindred Spirit Network. I have been browsing through and have been greatly encouraged by your testimony. I have been discouraged over the past couple days because of an ongoing health problem and the Lord has sent many things and people my way to encouage me, you are one! You can check out my site at and I also have a single Christian ladies ministry at Thanks again for your encouragement!
    Sarah Ann

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